Frequently Asked Questions

These are some of the questions most frequently asked by key stage 2 children after watching a performance of Happily Ever After. These questions often form the basis of wider discussion and workshop activity aimed at addressing any uncertainty or confusion around same sex relationships. The aim of the performance and post show activity is to help the school environment be a safe and inclusive place for all children and to acknowledge diversity within the family and in society.

Q. Why were there two men getting married in the play instead of a man and a woman?

A. The Princes got married because they love each other. In this country adults are free to marry who they love - men can marry men, women can marry women and men and women can marry each other too.

Q. Why did the Princes kiss?

A. They got married – do people who get married usually kiss?

Q. How do you tell / would you know if you are gay?

A. People do not choose to be gay, but most people realise that they are gay – or not – when they are teenagers. At that age you might start to think about the types of people that you are attracted to – for some of you this will be boys, for some of you it will be girls.

Q. Is it hard to tell your family and friends that you are gay?

A. This is a topic that is hardly ever talked about. Therefore it is difficult to tell how anyone will react until you do it. The vast majority of times this goes well because above all else your family and friend love you.

Q. Why do some people break friends when they find out their friend is gay?

A. Why indeed! Some people can do some nasty things when they don’t understand something, or something is different. How will you react when it is your friend?

Q. Why do some people tease gay people?

A. People sometimes say some mean things to people who are different. There is nothing wrong with being gay, but there is something wrong with being a bully.

Q. What is a lesbian?

A. “Lesbian” is another way of saying “gay woman”, it means the same thing and is another word that must only be used in a nice way.

Q. If you are gay can you have children?

A. A male and female are needed to make a baby but there are lots of reasons why some adults can’t have children of their own. If someone is gay it does not mean that they won’t be a parent – gay couples can get help to have children, or they may adopt or foster if they want to.

Q. How many people in the world are gay?

A. It is thought that approximately one in every ten adults is gay.

Q. What would it be like if my parents were gay?

A. Lots of people have gay parents – even people at this school. What do you think it would be like? How would you treat someone with gay parents?

Q. What clothes do gay people wear?

A. Whatever they like! We all pick clothes that we like and are comfortable in..

Q. Is it hurtful when people say “gay” in a mean way?

A. Sometimes people use the word “gay” to mean that something is “rubbish” or “bad”. This can be hurtful to gay people because it is suggesting that they are rubbish or bad. Only use the word “gay” in a positive way!

Q. Are the actors gay in real life?

A. All of the people involved with Happily Ever After are passionate about fair treatment for all and that bullying is wrong. Some of the team are gay, some are not.

Q. Why is there a flag for gay people?

A. Flags show “togetherness” for groups of people. The rainbow or “Pride” flag encourages people to be who they are and be proud of who they are. A few years ago, gay people would not have been welcome in some places, so the flag was important to show them where they could be open about who they are.

Q. Why and how was the Pride flag invented?

A. It is thought that the flag designer Gilbert Baker was inspired by the song from the film The Wizard of Oz called “Over the Rainbow”. At a time when life was difficult for gay people, he wanted to create a symbol that showed solidarity or togetherness for them.

Q. Do the colours in the flag have a meaning?

A. Yes - each section of the Pride rainbow flag represents an area in life that is important for well-being: